should the word monster be branded onto the foreheads of teenagers who stab%26gt;Should teenagers who stab, have the word monster branded onto thier foreheads?
They should have the word ';monster'; STABBED into their foreheads.
P.S. Princessbi, we've tried that. Your liberal idea of showing kindness to scum does not work.Should teenagers who stab, have the word monster branded onto thier foreheads?
It's interesting that a few centuries ago people were branded on the hand for things like poaching. Why is it that nowadays we cannot (for example) have the letter R branded onto the foreheads of known rapists? Everyone would at least know to steer clear.
With teenagers (or with anyone) you need to have the specific crime displayed on their foreheads. A single letter would probably do.
P for paedophile.
No. They should be properly educated and have to face up to their actions.
But they're teenagers. That makes them children, who have impaired judgement compared to an adult. Studies have shown that teenagers brains are immature as far as rational judgement and self control go.
These kids get into gang culture because they have poor self esteem, grow up in poverty and feel they have little chance for the future. Being in a gang that is into violence makes them feel 'big' and important. I'm not suggesting someone's background excuses violent crime, but to me it makes it at the least understandable, and I wouldn't suggest they should be pitied either.
Teenagers who get into trouble don't need overly harsh punishments, but they don't need sympathy either. They need to be given a proper chance at turning their life around.
Why JUST teenagers?
Adults stab people too..
I think it's out of order you stating TEENAGERS as the criminals, adults commit crimes too, so maybe they should also have the word 'monster branded on their foreheads.
As for you, you stereotyping twat, you should piss off and leave teenagers alone, most of whom don't do nothing to deserve the way they are treated.
I don't particularly favour that approach. I think there would be more mileage in appropriate custodial sentences and a more rationale approach to prison conditions, i.e. an end to the ';human rights'; cancer which has eliminated much of the punishment aspect of imprisonment and replaced it with colour tvs, games consoles, and access to drugs and mobile phones.
No they should be put in a room and the family of the victim should be allowed to administer the same to them...or just hang the little scroates.
yes,good idea,same as paedo's and murderers
nah on a badge
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Young Teenagers wanting to have babies?
Why do some young teenage girls have this desperate desire to get pregnant? Could it be hormones? A need to feel loved? What is the drive that makes them feel the need for a baby.
Now I'm not talking about teenage wife's or young women who have there lives together. I wondering about 13,14, and 15 year old girls.Young Teenagers wanting to have babies?
Funnily enough, seconds ago I was watching a documentary on two teenagers (I think about 15-16) who want a baby. I got sick of listening to them so came on here instead! One of them was pregnant at 13 and had an abortion, so it was really her regretting her decision making her want to get pregnant now, the other girl just felt like a failure and felt that having a baby would make her life more worthwhile.
I suppose another thing to consider is hormones. Broodiness is completely normal, and we all get it... I get horribly broody and I have a 10 month old in bed upstairs! Biologically, the healthiest and safest time for reproducing is the late teens (18-20ish)... after 22, risk factors slowly increase, peaking around age 40. I personally think women are designed to have babies a little earlier than society generally allows for these days... but then, young teens are not quite there either! I
My conclusion: Something important lacking in their life, peer pressure and hormones.Young Teenagers wanting to have babies?
I don't think it's hormones at all, I think it's a social issue. They see single celebrities having babies, and there's no longer any stigma attached to being a single mom (not that there should be). Most of all though I think they're starved for affection and don't realize that a baby isn't capable of giving what they're looking for. A baby needs you but it isn't going to fill the void that their absent daddies or distracted mommies aren't giving them. A baby was the last thing I wanted at that age, along with the action necessary to conceive that baby, but maybe I was just more sheltered.
Most of them, I think, have ';daddy issues';. either their dad wasn't around or they didn't feel loved so they have this desire to feel loved by a baby and to ';trap'; a guy into being with them long term. Often it backfires, and unfortunately all of us have to pay for these mistakes with our tax dollars.
Personally, I couldn't remember to feed the family dog at that age, I certainly didn't want a baby.
i'm 14.
almost 15.
we have a lot of pregnant girls at our school.
i live in a small town so its kinda crazy.
but like, some girls i hear saying they want babies are like aww. thats so cute. i want a baby so i can take care of it and dress it and decorate a room and this is what i would name it... and all this stuff.
and im like wow, your pretty stupid. because there is no way someone my age and especially the girls i hear talk about it can love a baby, and take care of it the way it needs to be taken care of.
i love to babysit. the little girl i watch is 2.
i bathe her, dress her, play with her, feed, watch, change diapers, and i take care of her as if she were my baby...
i dont want to have a baby.
but the girls that i know that do, are either getting no attention what so ever from home or they are really dumb because no one is ever ';ready'; to have a baby. its just something you have to be willing to do.
and being pregnant in highschool is no way to start your life off...
so i kind of dont really know.
its a hard question, it just depends on the girl.
--hormones have NOTHING to do with it! :)
I think that if there friends have one they want one to or it will make them feel loved or cool
I am not sure. Its a new thing. My stepdaughter is 17 and was asking me for one of those ';reborn babies'; her and her friends are obsessed with playing house. She is getting older, but she surely isn't ready for real life OR a baby. Her 15 yr. old friend just gave birth, so it scares me.
Now I'm not talking about teenage wife's or young women who have there lives together. I wondering about 13,14, and 15 year old girls.Young Teenagers wanting to have babies?
Funnily enough, seconds ago I was watching a documentary on two teenagers (I think about 15-16) who want a baby. I got sick of listening to them so came on here instead! One of them was pregnant at 13 and had an abortion, so it was really her regretting her decision making her want to get pregnant now, the other girl just felt like a failure and felt that having a baby would make her life more worthwhile.
I suppose another thing to consider is hormones. Broodiness is completely normal, and we all get it... I get horribly broody and I have a 10 month old in bed upstairs! Biologically, the healthiest and safest time for reproducing is the late teens (18-20ish)... after 22, risk factors slowly increase, peaking around age 40. I personally think women are designed to have babies a little earlier than society generally allows for these days... but then, young teens are not quite there either! I
My conclusion: Something important lacking in their life, peer pressure and hormones.Young Teenagers wanting to have babies?
I don't think it's hormones at all, I think it's a social issue. They see single celebrities having babies, and there's no longer any stigma attached to being a single mom (not that there should be). Most of all though I think they're starved for affection and don't realize that a baby isn't capable of giving what they're looking for. A baby needs you but it isn't going to fill the void that their absent daddies or distracted mommies aren't giving them. A baby was the last thing I wanted at that age, along with the action necessary to conceive that baby, but maybe I was just more sheltered.
Most of them, I think, have ';daddy issues';. either their dad wasn't around or they didn't feel loved so they have this desire to feel loved by a baby and to ';trap'; a guy into being with them long term. Often it backfires, and unfortunately all of us have to pay for these mistakes with our tax dollars.
Personally, I couldn't remember to feed the family dog at that age, I certainly didn't want a baby.
i'm 14.
almost 15.
we have a lot of pregnant girls at our school.
i live in a small town so its kinda crazy.
but like, some girls i hear saying they want babies are like aww. thats so cute. i want a baby so i can take care of it and dress it and decorate a room and this is what i would name it... and all this stuff.
and im like wow, your pretty stupid. because there is no way someone my age and especially the girls i hear talk about it can love a baby, and take care of it the way it needs to be taken care of.
i love to babysit. the little girl i watch is 2.
i bathe her, dress her, play with her, feed, watch, change diapers, and i take care of her as if she were my baby...
i dont want to have a baby.
but the girls that i know that do, are either getting no attention what so ever from home or they are really dumb because no one is ever ';ready'; to have a baby. its just something you have to be willing to do.
and being pregnant in highschool is no way to start your life off...
so i kind of dont really know.
its a hard question, it just depends on the girl.
--hormones have NOTHING to do with it! :)
I think that if there friends have one they want one to or it will make them feel loved or cool
I am not sure. Its a new thing. My stepdaughter is 17 and was asking me for one of those ';reborn babies'; her and her friends are obsessed with playing house. She is getting older, but she surely isn't ready for real life OR a baby. Her 15 yr. old friend just gave birth, so it scares me.
Should teenagers who stab, have the word monster branded onto thier foreheads?
should the word monster be branded onto the foreheads of teenagers who stab%26gt;Should teenagers who stab, have the word monster branded onto thier foreheads?
They should have the word ';monster'; STABBED into their foreheads.
P.S. Princessbi, we've tried that. Your liberal idea of showing kindness to scum does not work.Should teenagers who stab, have the word monster branded onto thier foreheads?
It's interesting that a few centuries ago people were branded on the hand for things like poaching. Why is it that nowadays we cannot (for example) have the letter R branded onto the foreheads of known rapists? Everyone would at least know to steer clear.
With teenagers (or with anyone) you need to have the specific crime displayed on their foreheads. A single letter would probably do.
P for paedophile.
No. They should be properly educated and have to face up to their actions.
But they're teenagers. That makes them children, who have impaired judgement compared to an adult. Studies have shown that teenagers brains are immature as far as rational judgement and self control go.
These kids get into gang culture because they have poor self esteem, grow up in poverty and feel they have little chance for the future. Being in a gang that is into violence makes them feel 'big' and important. I'm not suggesting someone's background excuses violent crime, but to me it makes it at the least understandable, and I wouldn't suggest they should be pitied either.
Teenagers who get into trouble don't need overly harsh punishments, but they don't need sympathy either. They need to be given a proper chance at turning their life around.
Why JUST teenagers?
Adults stab people too..
I think it's out of order you stating TEENAGERS as the criminals, adults commit crimes too, so maybe they should also have the word 'monster branded on their foreheads.
As for you, you stereotyping twat, you should piss off and leave teenagers alone, most of whom don't do nothing to deserve the way they are treated.
I don't particularly favour that approach. I think there would be more mileage in appropriate custodial sentences and a more rationale approach to prison conditions, i.e. an end to the ';human rights'; cancer which has eliminated much of the punishment aspect of imprisonment and replaced it with colour tvs, games consoles, and access to drugs and mobile phones.
No they should be put in a room and the family of the victim should be allowed to administer the same to them...or just hang the little scroates.
yes,good idea,same as paedo's and murderers
nah on a badge
They should have the word ';monster'; STABBED into their foreheads.
P.S. Princessbi, we've tried that. Your liberal idea of showing kindness to scum does not work.Should teenagers who stab, have the word monster branded onto thier foreheads?
It's interesting that a few centuries ago people were branded on the hand for things like poaching. Why is it that nowadays we cannot (for example) have the letter R branded onto the foreheads of known rapists? Everyone would at least know to steer clear.
With teenagers (or with anyone) you need to have the specific crime displayed on their foreheads. A single letter would probably do.
P for paedophile.
No. They should be properly educated and have to face up to their actions.
But they're teenagers. That makes them children, who have impaired judgement compared to an adult. Studies have shown that teenagers brains are immature as far as rational judgement and self control go.
These kids get into gang culture because they have poor self esteem, grow up in poverty and feel they have little chance for the future. Being in a gang that is into violence makes them feel 'big' and important. I'm not suggesting someone's background excuses violent crime, but to me it makes it at the least understandable, and I wouldn't suggest they should be pitied either.
Teenagers who get into trouble don't need overly harsh punishments, but they don't need sympathy either. They need to be given a proper chance at turning their life around.
Why JUST teenagers?
Adults stab people too..
I think it's out of order you stating TEENAGERS as the criminals, adults commit crimes too, so maybe they should also have the word 'monster branded on their foreheads.
As for you, you stereotyping twat, you should piss off and leave teenagers alone, most of whom don't do nothing to deserve the way they are treated.
I don't particularly favour that approach. I think there would be more mileage in appropriate custodial sentences and a more rationale approach to prison conditions, i.e. an end to the ';human rights'; cancer which has eliminated much of the punishment aspect of imprisonment and replaced it with colour tvs, games consoles, and access to drugs and mobile phones.
No they should be put in a room and the family of the victim should be allowed to administer the same to them...or just hang the little scroates.
yes,good idea,same as paedo's and murderers
nah on a badge
Should teenagers be allowed to have more freedom?
free to do what? What can't they do already?Should teenagers be allowed to have more freedom?
This question is so vague. They are allowed to do a lot of things already by law but some parents do not allow them to do the things the law would allow. Are you talking about more freedom at home? Like being allowed to date, drive, go to parties or go out somewhere alone, or do you mean stuff like drink or buy cigarettes? Sure they need their freedom, but there is a reason the law does not allow a 15 year old to buy alcohol. They don't need that much freedom. It's dangerous and they don't know how to handle themselves with it.Should teenagers be allowed to have more freedom?
It depends on trust level. I have two teens (16 boy and 17 girl), and even though my 17-year old daughter is mature and responsible, I still seem to give more freedom to my son. I know this is very bias but I just feel he is less likely to get raped, attacked, etc because he is a male. You test your teens, talk to them and make sure they are aware it is them who determines how much freedom they are allowed based on their actions. I believe as a parent I have raised my children to make good choices, have morals and integrity and after that, you need to believe in them. It is kind of funny but I am extremely easy-going, the type of mom all my kids friends want to have as their parent. I think my kids turned out the way they did and are allowed the freedom they have because I let them know I trust them, I believe in them and they are more afraid of disappointing me than being punished. I wish you luck!
There are many factors to consider before answering such a vague question. I do think that teenagers should have their freedom. But I must know the relationship between the parents and that child first.
Ex: Do the parents trust this child?
Is this child always getting grounded?
Is this child respectful?
Is this child responsible?
Does this child respect authority?
How are his/her grades?
Have the parents met the friends %26amp; know them by names?
If you answered yes to the five questions then Yes I get teens should have more freedom?
If you said yes to all, then no, they are not ready.
Depends on the freedom.
Yes, they should be allowed to spend time with their friends. Yes, they should begin making their own decisions. Yes, they should be allowed to express their opinion.
No, they should not be going out and partying every weekend until 4 am. No, they should not be given money by their parents to blow.
depends on what types of freedom (like is it just walking to school or is it crossing a main road) and what kind of teen he/she is. if he/she is very irresopnsible then no they shouldnt hae more freedom but if theyare veryresponsible and you know that if thay are in a sticky situation that thay will call.
Depends, im 16 years right now. It depends on the type of person they are. Not all teens are bratty or wreckers. i feel annoyed by the fact that everyone thinks that way. if your teen is responsible and doing all he/she needs to do then give them what ever freedom you feel
It depends upon each teenager. Some teenagers yes and other teenagers, not in this lifetime.
No because do you see what they do with the ammount of freedom they have now?
No, we already exploit everything we can, why give us more to do so with?
No.
No. They have too much freedom I feel!maybelline
This question is so vague. They are allowed to do a lot of things already by law but some parents do not allow them to do the things the law would allow. Are you talking about more freedom at home? Like being allowed to date, drive, go to parties or go out somewhere alone, or do you mean stuff like drink or buy cigarettes? Sure they need their freedom, but there is a reason the law does not allow a 15 year old to buy alcohol. They don't need that much freedom. It's dangerous and they don't know how to handle themselves with it.Should teenagers be allowed to have more freedom?
It depends on trust level. I have two teens (16 boy and 17 girl), and even though my 17-year old daughter is mature and responsible, I still seem to give more freedom to my son. I know this is very bias but I just feel he is less likely to get raped, attacked, etc because he is a male. You test your teens, talk to them and make sure they are aware it is them who determines how much freedom they are allowed based on their actions. I believe as a parent I have raised my children to make good choices, have morals and integrity and after that, you need to believe in them. It is kind of funny but I am extremely easy-going, the type of mom all my kids friends want to have as their parent. I think my kids turned out the way they did and are allowed the freedom they have because I let them know I trust them, I believe in them and they are more afraid of disappointing me than being punished. I wish you luck!
There are many factors to consider before answering such a vague question. I do think that teenagers should have their freedom. But I must know the relationship between the parents and that child first.
Ex: Do the parents trust this child?
Is this child always getting grounded?
Is this child respectful?
Is this child responsible?
Does this child respect authority?
How are his/her grades?
Have the parents met the friends %26amp; know them by names?
If you answered yes to the five questions then Yes I get teens should have more freedom?
If you said yes to all, then no, they are not ready.
Depends on the freedom.
Yes, they should be allowed to spend time with their friends. Yes, they should begin making their own decisions. Yes, they should be allowed to express their opinion.
No, they should not be going out and partying every weekend until 4 am. No, they should not be given money by their parents to blow.
depends on what types of freedom (like is it just walking to school or is it crossing a main road) and what kind of teen he/she is. if he/she is very irresopnsible then no they shouldnt hae more freedom but if theyare veryresponsible and you know that if thay are in a sticky situation that thay will call.
Depends, im 16 years right now. It depends on the type of person they are. Not all teens are bratty or wreckers. i feel annoyed by the fact that everyone thinks that way. if your teen is responsible and doing all he/she needs to do then give them what ever freedom you feel
It depends upon each teenager. Some teenagers yes and other teenagers, not in this lifetime.
No because do you see what they do with the ammount of freedom they have now?
No, we already exploit everything we can, why give us more to do so with?
No.
No. They have too much freedom I feel!
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Is a crysler pt cruiser suitable for teenagers/ young adults?
or it is too fancy and luxury for a teenagerIs a crysler pt cruiser suitable for teenagers/ young adults?
I would say it's great for anyone! It's very roomy, and versatile, the seats fold, and pop in and out, It's easy and wonderful to drive, there are PT enthusiast clubs one can join, there are a ton of aftermarket items to help you pimp your ride... It's good on gas, It's not a tiny little car, so you may have at least some protection in a fender bender.
I'm really happy with mine, and if I had it as a teenager, I would have taken VERY nice care of it. Who of my friends would have had such a nice car? Also, even new, they are inexpensive. My 2007 was $15k.
Also, it's a car that doesn't encourage racing, like a WRX or Civic, so your child might be a safer driver as well.Is a crysler pt cruiser suitable for teenagers/ young adults?
As a teenager/young adult, I would say no. For that price, civic si, vw gti/gli/jetta, subaru wrx/impreza.
if that's what you want sure but there is the dodge caliber as well which receives that 5 star safety rating and better gas milliage and more for the money.
I would say it's great for anyone! It's very roomy, and versatile, the seats fold, and pop in and out, It's easy and wonderful to drive, there are PT enthusiast clubs one can join, there are a ton of aftermarket items to help you pimp your ride... It's good on gas, It's not a tiny little car, so you may have at least some protection in a fender bender.
I'm really happy with mine, and if I had it as a teenager, I would have taken VERY nice care of it. Who of my friends would have had such a nice car? Also, even new, they are inexpensive. My 2007 was $15k.
Also, it's a car that doesn't encourage racing, like a WRX or Civic, so your child might be a safer driver as well.Is a crysler pt cruiser suitable for teenagers/ young adults?
As a teenager/young adult, I would say no. For that price, civic si, vw gti/gli/jetta, subaru wrx/impreza.
if that's what you want sure but there is the dodge caliber as well which receives that 5 star safety rating and better gas milliage and more for the money.
The teenagers under our apartment play loud music daily?
Should I complain to my land-lord peaple? They have been nice to us, and they always turn it down when i ask, but I recently told them that that was it- we were going to complain next time, and she said ';we pay this rent to do what we want';, and then she complained about my 3 small children running and stomping around- which we try to monitor by the way, but my 4 year old son forgets this rule alot- what is your advice? They play it about twice a day, and it shakes our floor, and I can't think of anything, or do anything until it's off, or I leave the place.The teenagers under our apartment play loud music daily?
Once in a while woud be ok but evet day isa toooooo much! tell your land lord people! (keep a log of when it happens..so you have some kind of proof1)The teenagers under our apartment play loud music daily?
She may pay the rent, but that does not allow her to ';do whatever she wants';. Every person has a right to ';peaceable living';. I have dealt with this problem before, and what we did is called the police each and every time we had a problem. Eventually, they got tired of dealing with it, so they left. If they tried to retaliate in any way, we just called the police. The ';squeaky wheel'; gets the grease, or in your case, gets the ';peace';.
Noise ordnance by local laws prohibits loud music or any other type of disturbance after midnight. During the day is perfectly legal, if you're bothered by this, go to the landlord and complain with him/her, do NOT have any more confrontations with them.
Kindly present them a letter that you plan to send to whoever you decide to complain to and make an offer to them that they can play it at these times, or on these days. A truce sort of thing. try to be understanding but decisive of your goal. negoitate if their willing. if not mail it, make a copy
Tenancy laws are different everywhere so you may or may not have rights under ';peaceful use'; legislation.
But in the end, even if you somehow succeed in getting them to change behaviour they obviously want to do, they will resent you for it, and being your landlords, make you miserable.
You should move. This is a situation you are unlikely to be able to fix if you have already tried talking to them.
Call your landlord and the police daily. One of them will get tired of hearing from you.
Maybe turn ur music up and see how they like it......otherwise, I'd move.
Well it seems to me the both of you need to come to an agreement. Quiet time is usually between 10pm-10am (the sleeping hours) if they are playing their music during the day why should it bother you?I also have small children and live in an apartment fortunately for me my upstairs and downstairs neighbors are ME (townhouse) i know how loud those little footsteps can get and pretty annoying at times... Now if their music is so loud to where it rattles pictures off walls or glasses in cupboards then bring that to their attention have them come up and witness for themselves othrewise they may just think your nagging. Living in an apt is difficult you should find a common ground with your neighbors, you BOTH don't want to keep going back and forth to the management because eventually they'll just get rid of the problem (you BOTH)
Well, you could call the police on them, and if the police hear the music playing loud, they can cite them for it.
The police have to hear the noise to do anything about it, and I doubt your kids running around is going to have an effect, lol.
Yes I would bring this up with your landlord, however if your son is 4, I think he should stop ';forgetting'; the rule.
Contact your landlord or the police. Just know they can do the same about your kids stomping.
Cut the power cable going into their appartment.
well if your going to live in an apartment these are constant things you must always deal with,and I lived in apartment for many years my ex was a super attendant we lived downstairs and you do hear every noise coming from upstairs so they probably do get annoyed at times from your children running as well,my ceiling fans used to shake constantly and we went through many light bulbs,they were all adults just walking upstairs,so I would just say if it's only twice a day deal with it,they deal with your children.Or just move.:):):):)
i think that if they are angry about your children, you should talk to them and express your feelings about their complaints and your somplaints. i think that they should keep it down, and especially if its profaine its no music your kids should be exposed to
You need to speak to your land-lord/lady, because this will only get worse. Of course your children are running around..that is what loud music does to small children. I'll bet you can't get them to take a nap, so this would be under the heading of ';disturbing the peace';, which can be enforced at anytime of the day or night if it disturbs your peace. Your landlord should have never put children in an upstairs apartment %26amp; teenagers below you. This is bad management by them %26amp; if your neighbor thinks that paying her rent entitles her to do what she wants, then don't you have that same entitlement? This is a receipe for disaster %26amp; if the parents of these teenagers can't or won't take action to control the noise, you need to start getting the Police involved ao you can get your noise complaints on paper %26amp; this will be proof in case they start harrassing you further, which most likely is going to happen. I've been through it, on all sides %26amp; if your managers don't take action, you have legal recourse to sue them in a court of law %26amp; withhold your rent until the situation is solved, but you'll need those Police Reports as proof when you get into court. Teenagers can be a real pain %26amp; their parents are even worse.
Paying rent does not give anyone the right to ';do what we want';. Every lease you sign has rules of conduct every tenant must follow. You pay rent and are entitled to a peaceful dwelling and what they are doing is considered ';disturbing the peace';. You could call the police but it's better to go to your landlord first.
You need to talk to your landlord and ask them what the best way is to resolve the issue. The best thing to do is to have a meeting including yourself, the parent of the teenagers, and your landlord. A peaceful resolution is best and this may be the best way to reach one. It also may include the landlord deciding to move one of the parties (your family or the other family) to another apartment. You would be better off in a first-floor apartment (considering you have 3 small children) and the other family would be better off in a single-family dwelling if they want to allow their teenagers the ability to blow out their eardrums (and everyone else within earshot).
Bottom line is to try the diplomatic approach first (contacting the landlord and meeting with the landlord and the parents of the teenagers) to resolve and avoid future conflict. If the landlord does nothing you have a legal right to terminate your lease (keep everything documented, even conversations) and relocate.
Definitely call the land lord. We had this problem with a guy who was two doors down. I felt so bad for the little old nun who lived in between us. It shook our walls. A child running and a grown person playing loud music is two entirely different things. It's not like your child jumps up and down for hours on end. Call to get it stopped, you can even be annonymous. If it doesn't work, ask to be moved if that's possible.
put down carpeting in your place. there's not much else you can do short of swapping apts with them. Maybe invite your neighbors up to your place while their music is playing to hear it and they might sympathize with your plight
In a flat I once lived in, I had a similar problem. I cured it by getting up early one Sunday morning (when the neighbours wanted to sleep in) and set the radio up which plays a very long peel of bells. It was right under their bedroom - they never annoyed me ever again.
I do not recommend that you try that especially if you want to live there. It would be better if you could both talk to one another and live comfortably together. Perhaps your landlord would be willing to set up a meeting between you to talk to each other.
Good Luck.
Well you're not making the kids romp on purpose, like they're playing the music on purpose.
There's a difference...
Tell the landlords! Ask about the rental agreement if there is a clause on noise limits and whether they are breaking them.
If so, they have the duty to take action against her rather than you.
It's better that they do rather than have you turn itno 'the enemy'.
You might ask if others have ocmplained as well, like the neighbors, and if so, you can all sign a petition for the landlords that it's too noisy and action must be taken against it.
I have a stupid woman upstairs playing her mariachi sometimes it is SOOOO loud even with my doors and windows shut- I call the police and landlord, both, every time she does it.
You think she would learn?? Nope- apparently, your neighbors dont either. What the hell is it with these poeple who cant be respectful to others???
I live in a down stairs apartment, there's a small child that lives above us, she is all the time running around up there, gets to the point you cant hear the T.V , jars the things in our cabinets. People that live upstairs don't realize that running and things like that annoy the neighbors down stairs, to them it probably don't seem like it's loud but it is! SO your neighbors down stairs may be doing the music bit as a pay back. But if I were you I would complain, maybe they will get a notice.
Unless you get other tenants signatures for complaints, if they play it in daytime nothing can be done.
this could be a win-win or a lose-lose situation first of all in your apartment rules is their a noise level rule? next is there a rule about children? Next if you have knocked on their door more than once without contact the landlord or the ploice this is harassment this is not a situation you can handle your self it is one that has to be handled by the proper authorities!! You need to contact your land lord but first read your lease agreement, next if there is not a noise level rule then you need to inform him of the situation so he can post something on each tenants door to bring a rule into effect.... I could go on and on but i think you have the idea....
I think you should turn it is to your landlord. Thats really rude. And they apartment mgr will take care of it. KEEP complaining til they do. Or just call the cops and file a complaint with them WHILE the people have it up loud.
Once in a while woud be ok but evet day isa toooooo much! tell your land lord people! (keep a log of when it happens..so you have some kind of proof1)The teenagers under our apartment play loud music daily?
She may pay the rent, but that does not allow her to ';do whatever she wants';. Every person has a right to ';peaceable living';. I have dealt with this problem before, and what we did is called the police each and every time we had a problem. Eventually, they got tired of dealing with it, so they left. If they tried to retaliate in any way, we just called the police. The ';squeaky wheel'; gets the grease, or in your case, gets the ';peace';.
Noise ordnance by local laws prohibits loud music or any other type of disturbance after midnight. During the day is perfectly legal, if you're bothered by this, go to the landlord and complain with him/her, do NOT have any more confrontations with them.
Kindly present them a letter that you plan to send to whoever you decide to complain to and make an offer to them that they can play it at these times, or on these days. A truce sort of thing. try to be understanding but decisive of your goal. negoitate if their willing. if not mail it, make a copy
Tenancy laws are different everywhere so you may or may not have rights under ';peaceful use'; legislation.
But in the end, even if you somehow succeed in getting them to change behaviour they obviously want to do, they will resent you for it, and being your landlords, make you miserable.
You should move. This is a situation you are unlikely to be able to fix if you have already tried talking to them.
Call your landlord and the police daily. One of them will get tired of hearing from you.
Maybe turn ur music up and see how they like it......otherwise, I'd move.
Well it seems to me the both of you need to come to an agreement. Quiet time is usually between 10pm-10am (the sleeping hours) if they are playing their music during the day why should it bother you?I also have small children and live in an apartment fortunately for me my upstairs and downstairs neighbors are ME (townhouse) i know how loud those little footsteps can get and pretty annoying at times... Now if their music is so loud to where it rattles pictures off walls or glasses in cupboards then bring that to their attention have them come up and witness for themselves othrewise they may just think your nagging. Living in an apt is difficult you should find a common ground with your neighbors, you BOTH don't want to keep going back and forth to the management because eventually they'll just get rid of the problem (you BOTH)
Well, you could call the police on them, and if the police hear the music playing loud, they can cite them for it.
The police have to hear the noise to do anything about it, and I doubt your kids running around is going to have an effect, lol.
Yes I would bring this up with your landlord, however if your son is 4, I think he should stop ';forgetting'; the rule.
Contact your landlord or the police. Just know they can do the same about your kids stomping.
Cut the power cable going into their appartment.
well if your going to live in an apartment these are constant things you must always deal with,and I lived in apartment for many years my ex was a super attendant we lived downstairs and you do hear every noise coming from upstairs so they probably do get annoyed at times from your children running as well,my ceiling fans used to shake constantly and we went through many light bulbs,they were all adults just walking upstairs,so I would just say if it's only twice a day deal with it,they deal with your children.Or just move.:):):):)
i think that if they are angry about your children, you should talk to them and express your feelings about their complaints and your somplaints. i think that they should keep it down, and especially if its profaine its no music your kids should be exposed to
You need to speak to your land-lord/lady, because this will only get worse. Of course your children are running around..that is what loud music does to small children. I'll bet you can't get them to take a nap, so this would be under the heading of ';disturbing the peace';, which can be enforced at anytime of the day or night if it disturbs your peace. Your landlord should have never put children in an upstairs apartment %26amp; teenagers below you. This is bad management by them %26amp; if your neighbor thinks that paying her rent entitles her to do what she wants, then don't you have that same entitlement? This is a receipe for disaster %26amp; if the parents of these teenagers can't or won't take action to control the noise, you need to start getting the Police involved ao you can get your noise complaints on paper %26amp; this will be proof in case they start harrassing you further, which most likely is going to happen. I've been through it, on all sides %26amp; if your managers don't take action, you have legal recourse to sue them in a court of law %26amp; withhold your rent until the situation is solved, but you'll need those Police Reports as proof when you get into court. Teenagers can be a real pain %26amp; their parents are even worse.
Paying rent does not give anyone the right to ';do what we want';. Every lease you sign has rules of conduct every tenant must follow. You pay rent and are entitled to a peaceful dwelling and what they are doing is considered ';disturbing the peace';. You could call the police but it's better to go to your landlord first.
You need to talk to your landlord and ask them what the best way is to resolve the issue. The best thing to do is to have a meeting including yourself, the parent of the teenagers, and your landlord. A peaceful resolution is best and this may be the best way to reach one. It also may include the landlord deciding to move one of the parties (your family or the other family) to another apartment. You would be better off in a first-floor apartment (considering you have 3 small children) and the other family would be better off in a single-family dwelling if they want to allow their teenagers the ability to blow out their eardrums (and everyone else within earshot).
Bottom line is to try the diplomatic approach first (contacting the landlord and meeting with the landlord and the parents of the teenagers) to resolve and avoid future conflict. If the landlord does nothing you have a legal right to terminate your lease (keep everything documented, even conversations) and relocate.
Definitely call the land lord. We had this problem with a guy who was two doors down. I felt so bad for the little old nun who lived in between us. It shook our walls. A child running and a grown person playing loud music is two entirely different things. It's not like your child jumps up and down for hours on end. Call to get it stopped, you can even be annonymous. If it doesn't work, ask to be moved if that's possible.
put down carpeting in your place. there's not much else you can do short of swapping apts with them. Maybe invite your neighbors up to your place while their music is playing to hear it and they might sympathize with your plight
In a flat I once lived in, I had a similar problem. I cured it by getting up early one Sunday morning (when the neighbours wanted to sleep in) and set the radio up which plays a very long peel of bells. It was right under their bedroom - they never annoyed me ever again.
I do not recommend that you try that especially if you want to live there. It would be better if you could both talk to one another and live comfortably together. Perhaps your landlord would be willing to set up a meeting between you to talk to each other.
Good Luck.
Well you're not making the kids romp on purpose, like they're playing the music on purpose.
There's a difference...
Tell the landlords! Ask about the rental agreement if there is a clause on noise limits and whether they are breaking them.
If so, they have the duty to take action against her rather than you.
It's better that they do rather than have you turn itno 'the enemy'.
You might ask if others have ocmplained as well, like the neighbors, and if so, you can all sign a petition for the landlords that it's too noisy and action must be taken against it.
I have a stupid woman upstairs playing her mariachi sometimes it is SOOOO loud even with my doors and windows shut- I call the police and landlord, both, every time she does it.
You think she would learn?? Nope- apparently, your neighbors dont either. What the hell is it with these poeple who cant be respectful to others???
I live in a down stairs apartment, there's a small child that lives above us, she is all the time running around up there, gets to the point you cant hear the T.V , jars the things in our cabinets. People that live upstairs don't realize that running and things like that annoy the neighbors down stairs, to them it probably don't seem like it's loud but it is! SO your neighbors down stairs may be doing the music bit as a pay back. But if I were you I would complain, maybe they will get a notice.
Unless you get other tenants signatures for complaints, if they play it in daytime nothing can be done.
this could be a win-win or a lose-lose situation first of all in your apartment rules is their a noise level rule? next is there a rule about children? Next if you have knocked on their door more than once without contact the landlord or the ploice this is harassment this is not a situation you can handle your self it is one that has to be handled by the proper authorities!! You need to contact your land lord but first read your lease agreement, next if there is not a noise level rule then you need to inform him of the situation so he can post something on each tenants door to bring a rule into effect.... I could go on and on but i think you have the idea....
I think you should turn it is to your landlord. Thats really rude. And they apartment mgr will take care of it. KEEP complaining til they do. Or just call the cops and file a complaint with them WHILE the people have it up loud.
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