A question to all parents of teenagers about alcohol and drugs?

Which would you find more worrying?





Scenario 1: Your teenage daughter tells you her boyfriend smokes marijuana - and she has tried it.





Scenario 2. Your teenage daughter has been riding on the back of her b/f's motorcycle - and he had been drinking alcohol.





I have recently had both of these told to me by my somewhat rebellious 19 year old daughter. The scariest? - my vote is for #2 - it's hard to die from smoking pot, but riding on the back of some drunken idiot's m/cycle is positively lethal. Although I don't particularly like her hanging out with potheads, at least she isn't in peril of her life. I went a little ballistic at #2, but I don't want to scare her off from telling me what she gets up to.





I am curious how other parents would deal with this.A question to all parents of teenagers about alcohol and drugs?
First of all - it's great that she tells you anything at all. So be happy about that. Secondly, you are right. Scenario 2 is the worse. Lastly, I rather scare my daughters then tell them through my silence that it is okay to ride on the back of a motorcycle with someone who has been drinking. I rather her be a little quieter with me than to to be dead. Good luck to you - you're doing great so far!





-GirlShrinkA question to all parents of teenagers about alcohol and drugs?
Welcome to parenthood, all I can say is to love your daughter no matter what, try to talk and listen really listen to what she is trying to say. Hopefully you will both come to some common ground, I am sorry I am not much help, no person or book can prepare you for parenthood, it is trial and error! My daughter came into this world nearly 16 yrs ago, we fell in love with her at that moment of birth ,at this time we have a really good relationship, I have been warned any day soon now, she will bite back and I am dreading it, just do your best and hang in there. good luck.
I think they are both scary. if he drinks and drives he would also drive when high on drugs.
i would tell the bfs parents that hes drunk driving on his bike,that hes smoking pot,and hes involving your daughter in this behavior


sit down with romeo and his parents and tell him and daughter what you as parents will do if this continues....your the parents,,take charge
your right #2 he should not be riding her on the back of that bike when he has been drunken all he would have to do is loss control of the bike and shed be a goner
Scariest is senario #2. It really isn't great and its usually hard to stop. Try taking a holiday with her to get away from it for a while without being suspicious. Pot is most of the time a phase, everyone tries it. It also sounds like sooner or later your daughters bf will stuff up all by himself. If he does that again though, i know if i was her mother i would call the cops on him, cos it may mean that your daughter will hate you for it, but at least she will still be alive. Weigh up the consequences.
Number 2 is the obvious choice. If you replaced alcohol with pot there, i'd be a hell of a lot less worried because people on it tend to be able to drive well if they've practiced at it. Plus they tend to drive really carefully.


Personally I wouldn't worry about the whole pot thing as long as it doesn't interfere with things she needs to do.
I agreed with you, the 2nd one was scariest....Both are serious, I actually don't have the idea to deal with it, but i think you should talk and educate her about the seriousness.


Good Luck!
first be thankful your daughter is telling you this... she is crying out for you to acknowledge that she is an adult now.. second she wants to have a closer relationship.. let her talk.. and then tell her in a quiet way that you love her and don't want to lose her.. tell her why riding on the bike is dangerous.. but more then that.. tell her why it hurts you to know she did this but love her enough to hug her and tell her you are glad she is home safe... she needs your love... also you might want to point out that her boyfriend was in a lot of danger too and you don't want to see anything happen to him or any other innocent person who may try to avoid him and run off the road and getting into a wreck.. maybe even with a child in the car.... Hope this helps.. :)
You need to explain the difference between the degrees of danger she has subjected herselt to. Therefore she can identify the acceptable ones and make better choices for herself.
Well, pot is just a way to relax and have a good time, forget lifes problems... Driving a motorcycle drunk or getting on one with a drunk driver is a death wish...


I'm 16... I like to drink, but I would never be that stupid, I learnt not to even get in a car with a drunk driver (after we nearly hit a police officer one time, the car stopped within a foot of him)... I like to blaze, and it's not really a big deal if you do and its much safer getting in a car with someone stoned than someone drunk... I also do harder drugs, which are fun! I dont like hallucinagens to much tho... Meth is fun!





Be thankful your daughter isnt me!
First of all give your daughter credit for even telling you....not very many teens would do that...Maybe she was telling you in hopes that you would tell her how to deal with bf's drinking


I agree #2 is the most lethal ...If she has confided to you maybe you should tell her that that was dangerous and that you would appreciate it if she didin't do it anymore
re: rebellious 19 year old daughter


.........is this about your inadequate parenting?





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I'm not sure on this question. but I can say this. Never lose trust in your child. Be there when they need you, not the other way around. Our job as parents is to guide our kids in the right direction. smoking pot is bad, riding on a motorcycle with someone under the influence is worse.
i would agree with the alcohol situation for the time being,,,at least you know about it but at 19,,well,she really doesnt have to tell you anything,,,all you can do is try to get her to look after herself and maybe invite the boyfriend over so they both feel welcome enough to just hang out at home,,at her age its better to know than for her not to tell you because you are overcautious as she will see it.all you can hope is that this relationship either improves or they split up.

Is Miley Cyrus acting like a Diva or do Divas act like young teenagers?

most of them are spoiled.Is Miley Cyrus acting like a Diva or do Divas act like young teenagers?
well to the person who answered first not all teens are brats what were you like as one dont class everyone the same especially since you forget where yo stand i myself am a teen 15 actually and i think that miley has shown alot of signs of becoming a diva as she gets older, i mean her parents have never shouted at her for any of the pics taken never have they stopped her wearing clothes that make her look older, they just seem to feed off her cos she has some sort of promosing talent in disney and cos she made her once famous dad famous again.Is Miley Cyrus acting like a Diva or do Divas act like young teenagers?
miley cyrus is not a diva she is a very good acter and singer making her way in the business!
Teenagers are just brats.
i never knew miley cyrus could act.
they all are brats

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Where can i get stories on teenagers that died from using drugs?

Just ask around. I know I have had more than enough die from an overdose.Where can i get stories on teenagers that died from using drugs?
Don't know but I hear it's the senior citizens that really take the most drugs of all and often die from over dose or other drug issues.Where can i get stories on teenagers that died from using drugs?
don't no. i had a friend tht almost died

Why is it so important for teenagers to have a boy friend or girl friend?

why do they think they need a boy friend or girl friend to be happy?





what you can't be respected and can't make friends without one?





why are they so desperate for attention AND feel they NEED a boyfriend or girlfriend?














P.S. I'm 18 hahaWhy is it so important for teenagers to have a boy friend or girl friend?
Because today's materialistic culture dictates that if you are a young person or a teenager, you MUST have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and not just any one but the coolest, most popular, attractive one you can convince to date you, and if you don't you must really suck or its because you are mental. But what about people who don't want to date or who are single because they haven't yet found a worthwhile person to date (like I was a lot of the time)? Today's society does nothing to provide for that, what you are asking is just an artificial construct of today's vapid, insincere, marketeing-social-engineered status quo.Why is it so important for teenagers to have a boy friend or girl friend?
Its not that it is important. Its because they feel like they will be alone if they don't have someone else. Which is sad because they usually have friends that they forget about when they get those gfs/bfs. I don't think its attention, I really think its fear of loneliness.
because most girls feel the need to be wanted by somebody, I don't know its weird





I'm defiantly not like that though.





thank god.
Peer pressure





besides, they want everything their friends have.
thats usually Pisces and firesigns cuz theyre born romantic...
It's not. I'm 16 and I have only had one girlfriend, it lasted about 2-3 years on and off. That's the only one I had ever had and after that, that's the only one I needed. They're a waste of time, really.
peer pressure...
Because they're HORNY!
yea I don't see the big deal.
its not that its important its just that making out is fun and havin someone there is nice.


sometimes its just to have sex.


somtimes a hookup turns into a relationship.


sometimes dumb guys and girls just want to be like ';ive had blah blah blah 34534 gfs/bfs'; like its a game or somethin

Teenagers: how long are you aloud to stay on the internet?

I'm 17 and in the summer holiday i was pratically on the internet 24/7 but since school im only aloud on the internet a hour per fri , sat , sunTeenagers: how long are you aloud to stay on the internet?
I'm ALLOWED on when ever I want. I bought my laptop, so I get all rights to it.





=]Teenagers: how long are you aloud to stay on the internet?
First of all, it's allowed, not aloud, in this context.





And I don't really have a time limit. If I've been, like, all day, then my parents tell me to get off, but I rarely do that.
Well, I am 20 but I just turned 20, so I can still answer this question.





When I was a teen, I was allowed on as long as I wanted to. I started using the computer when I was 10.





My mom never gave me a specific time limit and I liked that but I also wasn't an addict.
It's pretty much the other way around in my house.





I'm the one always fixing the computers or telling my parents how to do certain things etc. so it's not a worry for my parents.
i have a computer in my room, but before i had one in my room i was aloud on it for a hour and half a day. now i have one in my room i get bored of it easy.
Crap. I'm on it as soon as I get home and until I go to bed. Well at least I'm sitting at my computer. Usually I do everything at my desk - eat, drink, homework, sleep (haha, not really)
I have a computer in my room, and my parents dont care.








I go on whenever i feel like it.





Anything that keeps me out of there hair is a good thing to them.
As long as I want. You got limited because as you said you were on it 24/7. They don't want you to be like that so that's why the did it. My guess.
as long as i want. and if my parents ask, i just say im doing my homework. but other than that. my parents dont care. in fact they ask me to teach them how to use the computer.
However long I want because I take responsibility and do my homework and everything else I need to do.
I'm allowed to use the internet as much as i want, but that's because my parents trust me to not go on the internet 24/7.
I'm allowed on as much as I want as long as I finish the dishes and my homework :)
i dont have a actual limit but there is a time when they want me off lol. weekends - 3 hours


weekdays= no more than an hour and 15 minutes


im 13 btw
My parents don't care either. As long as I get off if they need to do something important (if they're expecting an important email, etc.).
Really? I'm allowed on whenever I please for whatever length I desire! :)
summer uhh my parents didnt care


school like 1-2 hrs, as long as i finish homework
thats retarded cuz my parents let me stay on as long as i want whenever i want and i'm 15
Anytime. :l
I'm 16 and I'm allowed to be online for however long I want since everyone in my house has their own laptop.
Whenever I want.
As much as I want really...except during school nights my mom might get a bit mad if I'm on it a lot...
All day.





As long as I do my school, and home, work, I can stay on it all day. 1pm - 12am, actually.
As long they don't really care


lol
my parents don't care. so as long as i want.
i dont have a limit. just sometimes im kicked off cause my dad may need to use it
I have my iPod touch
that stinks! im allowed onwhenever i want cuz i have my own laptop
that sucks! whenever I want. as long as I do my chores and homework.





hehe
My parents don't care.


However long floats my boat. :)
As long as I want?
as much as i want. as long as i do my homework :)

Teenagers how did you learn about sex and protection and std's?

i want to help young girls who are having sex without knowing what percautions to take. or what to do. or where to go. email me allTeenagers how did you learn about sex and protection and std's?
A lot of teens (and adults for that matter) don't want to openly ask questions about sex. A lot of teens come to the Internet to get their information about STDs, pregnancy and so forth. Look around Y!A and you'll see a lot of young folks looking for help.





The important thing is to point people to reliable sources so they don't get the wrong information. Trust me, there's a lot of misleading information out in cyberspace.





I think a great way to help young people learn about sex and safety is to direct them to the right info.





There are a few great sites out there:


http://www.cdc.gov/std


http://www.teenwire.com


http://www.scarleteen.com


http://goaskalice.columbia.eduTeenagers how did you learn about sex and protection and std's?
We heard all about it thnx to teen magazines such as BRAVO
see if u can start up a safe sex club or a support groupfor teens. where they can come and talk to someone or have other kids to talk to. maybe go to a clinic or doctors office and ask around.
young girls must use candom for provide infection,morning after pills and ...

Why is this site dominated by teenagers?

I mean, I have nothing against teenagers (I was one once, too) but don't adults have questions, too? Is there another site that has more of a mix of ages?Why is this site dominated by teenagers?
I agree. You even see teens (as young as 13!) posting under Marriage / Divorce about their first kiss! It would be nice to have just an adult section.Why is this site dominated by teenagers?
Most of my contacts are in the 30 - 55 age group. I've seen someone who claimed to be 8 years old, and I've seen two people who claimed to be in their 80s. Of course, I've seen a lot of teens and 20-somethings, too.





Try asking and answering when the kids are in school...you might get adults (using this site from work or home)...there are many.
Teens these days like to feel more grown up dont they? And teenagers have problems that some adults can help because they've already been there. Its not a problem to me. If youve got a question, ask it!
Actually it really isn't...


I used to think the same, also


until I began seeing more and more q. and a.'s


being asked and answered by people of ALL


ages..


It's just that at certain times, teenagers post a lot,


and there is a lot more traffic within a certain time


period.


But sometimes they post the funniest, or greatest


questions,


and - on the Rare Occasion when I've needed help


with MySpace, or errors on my computer, I'm always


amazed that it's them that help me!


I feel lucky they're here...


I guess we're all a mixed bunch, with differing problems,


and able to help each other in many ways..
I haven't used them very much, but I know of at least one more, Wiki Answers. Maybe we should migrate over there.